Do Nice Guys Finish Last?
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As I was walking into a building, I tried to be nice and opened the door to let a woman behind me go first. Before I knew it, a group of guys just quickly and carelessly walked out through the door I was holding open for the woman. It was a glass door so they must have seen I was trying to let the woman go first.
I wasn’t sure which shocked me more - the fact that they didn’t wait for the woman or that they expected me to hold the door for them without even a “thank you”! As I stood there simply dumbfounded with what happened, I began to ask the age-old question: do nice guys finish last?
I decided to finally answer this question once and for all. This can only be achieved by applying a scientifically rigorous approach. My method was to think of a few questions that would test my theory, arrive at the answers using my gut instincts, and then use Google to see if anyone else agrees.
Note: the question, “Do nice gals finish last?” also applies!
Do Nice Guys Finish Last REGARDING LOVE?
This was a big question, so I had to make sure I had very good proof to support my claim, and I may have found the most authoritative source there is. A wikiHow article described seventeen steps (yes, seventeen!) to ask for a date. You can’t get more detailed than that. Although the article does recommend being nice, a much more emphasis was put on being persistent in order to succeed. If you believe the article, you would deduce that if a woman who was being asked out by two people, one being nice and the other being persistent, the person who gets the date would be the persistent one.
Answer: When it comes to finding love, nice guys finish last.
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Now, what happens after love is found? Happily ever after does not happen by itself. The relationship has to be fresh, alive, anew. According to an Art of Manliness article, you gotta feed the flame. The article continues by recommending to give attention to the partner through actions such as being courteous, giving gifts, and having date nights. Clearly, being nice is important in keeping the romance alive.
Answer: When it comes to keeping love, nice guys finish first.
Do Nice Guys Finish Last REGARDING FRIENDS?
This question is easy. If you’re not a nice person, why would anyone want to be around you? You can attract more flies with honey than with vinegar.
Answer: When it comes to casual friends and acquaintances, nice guys finish first.
There is an exception to the answer. When you need to ask for honest advice, do you go to your casual friends or acquaintances? No, you go to your best buddy, your confidant, your partner in crime. Why? Because that’s the only way to get an honest answer, whether you like the answer or not. If your best friend told you any different, that person has lost credibility with you. Trust is more important than being nice when it comes to your best friends.
Answer: When it comes to best friends and confidants, nice guys finish last.
Do Nice Guys Finish Last REGARDING WORK?
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This looks like it should be a no-brainer. When you’re working in a team environment, a good attitude is contagious. Being polite, professional, and courteous helps with team chemistry.
Answer: When working with other employees, nice guys finish first.
Things are a little different when it comes to sales. When was the last time you said “no” only once to a salesperson? I’m sure there’s a nice salesperson out there that takes the first “no” for an answer, but there’s not that many. Why? Because they wouldn’t last long in their job. I had a telemarketing job once that paid on commission. I learned real quick to be persistent or else I’d be working for free.
Answer: When it comes to making money and sales, nice guys finish last.
Do Nice Guys Finish Last IN A CONFRONTATION?
It takes quite a level head to be able to maintain composure and still be nice when faced with a confrontational situation. It’s so impressive, it’s actually disarming. I usually find that after the other person vents for a little bit without any push back, that person would typically decompresses and then start to engage in a reasonable exchange.
Answer: When it comes to confrontations, nice guys finish first.
What if the other person doesn’t decompress? What if the other person is stubbornly looking to escalate the situation some more? What if it gets physical? It’s still not too late. If you’re able to still be mindful of your safety, there’s still a chance you can decompress the situation. However, there is a point where you may not be able to mind your own safety against a belligerent person, and if it comes to the point where you need to physically defend yourself, just remember the one rule about street brawls: there are no rules. That’s why the confrontation should be decompressed at all costs.
Answer: When it comes to surviving a fight, nice guys finish last.
CONCLUSION
Nice guys are in danger of finishing last when they confuse kindness with weakness. As long as they keep that in mind, nice guys can indeed finish first.
It might be a thin difference, but there are some differences between good guy and nice guy. Good guy is secure of himself, able to build boundary, independent, confident, and not a people pleaser.
And actually I think, if you’re a good guy, you won’t mind finishing last (as when you open the door) coz you are very secure of yourself that you even dare to serve them. You don’t have to impress them, as you managed to impress yourself, you stay true to your values.
That’s my thought!
Robert
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In China the people are not obsessed with beating each other over all other things. They strive for a good situational outcome, then, congratulate each other for participating in a ‘Group Win’. This may be part of the psychological edge they appear to have over North Americans in the business world - no grandstanding ego-maniacal assholes screwing everyone else to look good for themselves, just a quiet group, working towards a successful end. Some day, when Americans are no longer obsessed with bra sizes, penis lengths, raw horsepower, mega-McMansions and loudness, one day, when we grow up, we may find a more level playing field and a chance to win in world business. In the mean time . . .
hey, nice article.
only bit i’d disagree with really is ‘When it comes to best friends and confidants, nice guys finish last.’. but everyone has their own opinions.
thanks for an interesting read.
There is a difference between being nice and being submissive.
Once I learned this line, I understood everything about a “nice guy”
I hate it when men think that if they pester a woman long enough she will always give in. I think this is absolute nonsense (possibly they get it from movies?) and it looks creepy and stalkerish.
Actually, flies are more attracted to vinegar than honey. try it for yourself. There goes your third assumption.
@Robert - that’s an interesting point… being a ‘good’ person, rather than just being a ‘nice’ person.
I see your point and I agree with it. A good person can be a nice person, and indeed most of the times they are one and the same. However, when the situation calls for it, the good person will adjust the attitude to whatever the situation calls for.
Thanks for the feedback!
@Uncle B - that’s an interesting point about group win vs. an individual win. I don’t know much about the current trends in the Chinese culture, but the impression that I was getting was that they were adopting more and more of the western culture (whether that’s a good thing is another question).
Is having the ‘group win’ mentality and being nice to each other a sustainable value? I don’t know enough to answer that question on the Chinese side, but with problems such as climate change, I do see a growing sense of ‘group win’ in the West. Here’s hoping this kind of thinking increases.
@andrew - thanks for the comment. Sorry you don’t fully agree with all my points, but I appreciate your honesty and not being simply nice and agreeing with everything!
@Hai - agreed, being nice doesn’t mean being submissive. In fact, I’d probably would use the word ‘accommodating’ rather than ’submissive’, but I see your point.
@greghousesgf - I do believe that being diligent is a good value to have, but when taken to the extreme, it would be pestering.
I don’t think I was implying taking things to that extreme, but if something is worth winning, then one should be willing to not give up so easily.
Being persistent isn’t a symptom of being obnoxious. The nicest guy in the world can be persistent. Persistence is good! It’s only a question of *how* one is persistent. Persistence can be done in a nice and tasteful way, or it can be done in an obnoxious way. I don’t think a blanket statement can be made for defining the ethics of persistence.
I totally agree with you on the confrontation sentiment. Good call. But also, I think the nice guy would utilize every opportunity available to be effective in a fight if it meant protecting himself, or someone else. To be nice to ourselves, we must protect ourselves and our loved ones. Fighting “dirty” is the nice thing to do when it is necessary to protect oneself and ones loved ones.
Though, I think your closing statement clarifies all of this. Is that right?
Thank you for the thought provoking article.
Your post reminded me of a time when my son Sebastian (a lovely person) was 5 years old. He was being bullied at school. He had started karate classes and had been told NEVER to use it. So he asked me:
“Mum, do I then just let them hit me?”
“You hold your hands up, palms out and ask them to stop when they start closing in, ” said his Blackbelt mum. “Now you’ve already got your hands where you need them. Because just when they’re about to punch you. YOU PUNCH THEM FIRST!”
That was his first lesson in anti-niceness. Kind is good, generous is good, good is great. But ‘nice’ is living without guts and integrity.
hummm… NERD
@ Bamboo Forest - wow, you articulated my point better than me. Agreed - blanket statements can’t be made about persistence. Thanks for the comment.
I might replace ‘nice person’ with ‘good person’ as Robert had suggested. Clearly, the good person will do whatever it takes to protect loved ones, but hopefully it never gets to that point.
@ Mary - thanks for the story about your son. Although it was an important lesson learned, the story also made me laugh! Rather than the palms up being a show of good will, it’s actually a cheat to get a better punch. Brilliant!
@ Julian - that’s not very nice!
Al,
Being nice is not bad if you learn the art of saying “NO” to things that are life energy vampires.
Shilpan
Shilpan,
I really like that phrase, “life energy vampires.” It describes those things in life that deplete you, rather than add value to you or to whatever is important to you. Being nice without being mindful of such things would indeed be reckless.
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Hi John - I can’t let you leave on a bad note… as long as the nice guy doesn’t quit, he will ultimately finish first. Guaranteed.
Concerning nice guys finishing last in finding love. Women allow themselves to be pressured into accepting a man; nice guys expect and permit the woman to make up her own mind, while not-nice guys do not. That’s the problem: nice guys want a woman who knows what she wants, and who cannot complain later that she was taken advantage of, or coerced, or was worn down. Women who permit those things to happen are weak in some senses of the word.
Hi Michael - what you say may be true for some people, but I’m not sure if I would generalize it.
Guys generally like women who knows what she wants, but if the woman of your dreams does not initially notice you, it would be a shame if you give up on her so quickly.
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Al, I’m sure every guy who has been single for over a year can attest to your situation….I’m 30 years old, and I’m still single, and all of my friends from childhood are either married and have kids….As regards to the “nice guys finish last” dynamic, the problem is, that American society has lost all morals and values in the past 40 years….The young people, girls in particular, don’t know what respect is if it came up and slapped them in the face….Let me tell you a story from personal experience….When I was in high school, I became infatuated with a beautiful blonde girl, it seemed that we both fell in love with each other….But from the outset, I made so many mistakes in the courtship game that I was doomed from the start…..Here’s where I failed:
1. I worshipped her…..I wish I knew at 16 what I now know at 30, that women are human beings like everybody else…..everywhere she went, I went, like a faithful puppy dog…..whatever clues and red flags she waved about, I refused to notice…..for instance, her best friend would borrow my bus pass to go and have sex with jerks…..I should have never let her have my bus pass, but of course, that’s immaturity….
2. I didn’t act manly around her…..I was a wuss…..If the way that I act now, I would have acted at 16, we would probably be married and have had kids…..I could have been Superman at 16, instead, I was Clark Kent…..It’s good that I learned from my previous experiences, it’s made me more confident of who I am and more appreciative of life…..Your manhood is the most important thing a man will ever possess, don’t ever give it up for anyone…..Peace…..
Hi CharlesK - that was a sad story, my friend. It seems though that you have learned from that experience though and are more confident now. Hey, that makes your future wife a lucky woman
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we don’t value the things that we can get very easily very much. That includes the fawning attention we get from nice guys. I’m sure you’ve had the thought that “He’s nice and all, but I don’t think I’ll be getting into a relationship with him anytime soon” when you were with a particularly nice guy in your life.
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i’m a 62 yr. old male who has been married for almost 40 yrs. now who was your proverbial nice guy. i was raised by my mother to be so.
i was shy almost paranoid around girls.(didn’t mean i didn’t like them because i did) my parents were abit anti social which stemmed over to myself and my other siblings. so basically had no frame of reference in relationships with girls. was alays considered to be the nerdy unconvientunal kind of guy. i make fun of it now about myself i was one of the original nerds. in jr. high a freind and i were the only ones that carried school bags and in the early 60’s that was a no no. but i just tell everyone now my freind and i were trend setters and just didn’t know it. because if you don’t have a book bag that cost at least $50. your the one committing a no no in todays school world.
ok, i’m rambling comes with being older .
was i the proverbial doormat yes, didn’t want to be but was never the less. my jr. high school prom date was one that my sister setup for me . i wasn’t planning on going at all but she had a freind that wanted to go so she promised that we could double date for the prom. my sister was a on the hot scale a #9 so she was far more popular than i was . it didn’t make my life any easier i thought.
it wasn’t until my senior year that a freshman girl(yep a freshman) started bringing me out of my shy shell (which was pretty thick at the time) then a second classmate a sophmore encouraged me. by the end of my senior year i was at least putting a foot outside that thick shy shell i had put up. a freind of mine set me up with of all things one of the hottest freshman girls (remember girls i told you that guys do that for their freinds. ) nice thing about it she actually liked me for who i was. even though i’m married we are still freinds today. no i didn’t marry her. i had gone to the phillipine isles during the viet nam war and was there for 2 yrs. which after the first six months there i got a dear john letter from her . yes it hurt at the time . but it helped me to grow. unfortunatly i lost my virginity to a phillippino girl who really didn’t care that much about me. i was drunk at the time . why was i drunk if i was such a nice guy one might ask . after the dear john letter i was crushed emotionaly and i started just not caring any more and decided to lose the nice guy for awhile. did i get layed more
because of it (no not really but did get some ) just lost interest in trying anymore.
by the time i got back to the states made an amazing discovery phillippino girls reactions to me were extremely different than american girls were and again i was relegated to the freind zone or
being like a brother. fortunatly i had reverted back to my nice guy format. ran around with a freind i had met at work and he and i got along well he had a girlfreind and she had a girlfreind that moved in with my freind. i lived just across the dtreet from them so occassionaly they came over. we all worked for the same company and during the same shift. still somewhat lonely but not quite as shy
i decided that on friday nights i would have a creature feature beer and wine fest as we watched videos we all got off work at about 11:30 at night and creature feature came on at midnite hour…..
i didn’t know how many of my freinds i worked with would show up but hope a few . that nite i had almost to many people in my apt.
being that at the time i had no girlfreind i was able to save money and basically do what ever i wanted so i decorated my apt. to suite my taste. i lived on the coast and had visited this one restraunt and they had decor which i thought would be interesting to put in my apt.
i had fish netting strung from various places in my living room
with sea shells ,black light and very colorful pictures of seacreatures
all over the place. had a huge tv set which had a great picture tube and the color of the videos was great. between the wine ,beer ,and some dumb ass brought weed (oh,yeh that was my buddy ) i got pretty messed up that first friday. not quite sure how all this came about but some how my freinds girlfreind her girlfreind wanted or needed a ride home . i was just learning about girls body language and was aware that girls that constantl;y swirled the hair around their finger while talking to or looking at you were flirting with you subconsciencely. was sure about how to approach her so i just told her what i had heard about the hair thing and ask if it was true.(ya i was hoping it was true because she was a knock out in the looks department) her response was she was just nervous. didn’t dawn on me that she was still interested in me . (thick headed i quess) anyways this went on for quite awhile and it seeemed i was giving her rides more often for some unknown reason(like how was i to know it was planned by my freind and his girlfreind.(ya gals thats what real freinds do for freinds) well i had another freind that worked at the same company and he and i got along fairly well . he was no doudt the biggest jerk i’ve ever met but for some reason a likeable jerk.(don’t ask me to explain i don’t see how someone that was a nice guy could like a jerk but i did) anyway one weekend he envited me over to fix his tv set which i knew how to and was surprised that it was a set up to introduce me to one of his ex girlfreinds down from another state (yep again gals thats what freinds do for freinds) this however was my future wife and now 40 years latter.
believe it or not she chased me i was the one unsure of if i wanted to get involved with her.
so in answer to your question do nice guys finish last , it depends on how you define last gals and guys. because what is defined as last by some might be first for some one else. the fact i didn’t get married until i was 26 to a 24 yr.old and not straight out of high school as some of my classmates. yes i’m on classmates and many of them that
were the type of guys and gals then have been married 2 or more time and some in the dating process after another divorce. so answer is you get what you want by your life style people. you treat people badly you wind up being treated badly. thats why so many of you wind up getting involved with the wrong type of person and in so many divorces or break ups.
so take it from someone maybe alittle older than some of you that being a freind to some is a two way street if not your not much of a freind.
i’m also going to post how nice guys can get girls by reading body language and also know what body language of girls means that says don’t bother me. and those that says come get me if you dare.
you know i hate it when someone says their trying to help a guy thats asking for help and they try to sell you their book while insulting you the whole time their doing it. their is free sites that has all this info . if i had known this info when in school i may have been abit more confident upon talking and relating to girls with out fear of rejection.
but see i had no freinds that made an effort to tell me these things.
now that i know them i realized one thing i thought i was a loser with the girls because i was nieve about what girls broadcasted in signals that i was unaware of. after finding out about it i thought i was dumb. no someone told me ,dumb means not having the capacity to learn different nieve however means has the capacity to learn and change upon knowing the info.
BELOW YOU’LL SEE ANOTHER OF MY POST ABOUT GIRLS BODY LANGUAGE
this page is misleading it’s not actually saying about helping the poor guy out to over come his (shyness,nervousness,or anyother such things that might affect how he responds to the girl) its about bashing him because he doesn’t come up to your standards.
sometimes even the the nicest guys ones who seem to get rejected over and over again develope complexes. which intentional or unintential created by the responses of you gals(note here this is not to all girls/women because there are alot of you out there that actually do give some of a break) my expiernce is that i had been like many nice guys ,taught from a small boy that you always treated girls with respect ,never hit ,talk badly about and above all be nice. because girls want a nice guy. hmmmm… yet we see all over the place this isn’t the case at all. we here that they are doormats because they were taught to be nice. by and in most cases by their mothers (yeh gals thats some of you)
if you ever have boys as children don’t ever tell them top be nice to girls tell them girls want bad boy types , the type that will hit them , the type that will cheat on them ,the type that will ignore them.
but don’t ever tell them to be nice to girls and respect them. because you just lied to your sons if you told them to be nice to girls. many women give this bs to their sons and then we find out it is bs perpetrated by those that say they love us. so maybe now you might see were some of the nice guy syndrome comes from.
you either don’t like guys that are taught to be nice and like the shit that bad boys do. which many of you come crawling back to the nice guy if shit head mistreats you to badly and you actually wise up. but sometimes that may be to late because one of those girls that actually likes nice guys will have probably snatched them up.
the nice guys that are truly nice and not just to get sex and you’ve relegated to the freind zone or that as like an older brother who you so depend upon in those crisis with shit head bad boy , question to you have you ever tried to set him up knowing he’s (shy,nervous,
or what ever other reasons you girls reject nice guys for for) or do you just string him along so that just in case shit head jerk or jerks don’t work out you might dicide to give mr. nice guy your bussom buddy a shot. is it he’s such a nice sweet guy that all he could be is a freind if so i’ve always been told that freindship is a two way street. he’s offered you advice probably on many occassions consold you probably as many times. but what have you actually contributed to him(and i’m not talking about sex her gals) have you ever considered this ok , maybe its not me he may get but i know this girl thats a freind that maight go out with you. hey girls note of importance here guys do it for their male freinds all lthe time . don’t believe me as them. ok, guys this question for you has any of your bussom buddy gal freinds thats had you relegated to the freind zone ever tried setting you up? if not why continue the freindship because its evident they are not your freind if they have no sense of empathy for you. freinds help each other in time of need how much have you helped her in comparision to how much she’s helped you . in many cases its probably pretty much one sided you helping her with little if any coming your way(and again not about sex girls)
am i bashing girls here only those that act in the fashion i described. it doesn’t feel good to be bashed does it gals. so why do it to the guys. if these guys are truly your freinds as some of you aledge to then start showing it and stop the one sided thing .
because many of your bussom buddies may be consoling you and telling you everything is going to work out and be ok , but underneith it all their crying out why the hell are you putting yourself through all this torment.
because many of us has learned it wouldn’t do us any good to do so so we don’t. and probably what few have voiced their opinions probably lost your freindship because your love for shit head jerk was undying and how dare he make such comments on that shit head of a jerk that you found so exciting .
why am i on here because as said i was one of those nice guys and i was one of those that got snatched up by a very ,very good gasl that liked me for whom i was before some gals like you wised up to the jerk syndrome you found yourself in.
thats my rant for now. going to the feminist blogs now to destroy the alpha male lie thats been perpetrated on us since women sufferage and the womens liberation
stay tuned to this guy because ge’s aboput to piss alot of people off for the lies that been told to them all their lives.
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i’m a 62 yr. old male who has been married for almost 40 yrs. now who was your proverbial nice guy. i was raised by my mother to be so.
i was shy almost paranoid around girls.(didn’t mean i didn’t like them because i did) my parents were abit anti social which stemmed over to myself and my other siblings. so basically had no frame of reference in relationships with girls. was alays considered to be the nerdy unconvientunal kind of guy. i make fun of it now about myself i was one of the original nerds. in jr. high a freind and i were the only ones that carried school bags and in the early 60’s that was a no no. but i just tell everyone now my freind and i were trend setters and just didn’t know it. because if you don’t have a book bag that cost at least $50. your the one committing a no no in todays school world.
ok, i’m rambling comes with being older .
was i the proverbial doormat yes, didn’t want to be but was never the less. my jr. high school prom date was one that my sister setup for me . i wasn’t planning on going at all but she had a freind that wanted to go so she promised that we could double date for the prom. my sister was a on the hot scale a #9 so she was far more popular than i was . it didn’t make my life any easier i thought.
it wasn’t until my senior year that a freshman girl(yep a freshman) started bringing me out of my shy shell (which was pretty thick at the time) then a second classmate a sophmore encouraged me. by the end of my senior year i was at least putting a foot outside that thick shy shell i had put up. a freind of mine set me up with of all things one of the hottest freshman girls (remember girls i told you that guys do that for their freinds. ) nice thing about it she actually liked me for who i was. even though i’m married we are still freinds today. no i didn’t marry her. i had gone to the phillipine isles during the viet nom war and was there for 2 yrs. which after the first six months there i got a dear john letter from her . yes it hurt at the time . but it helped me to grow. unfortunatly i lost my virginity to a phillippino girl who really didn’t care that much about me. i was drunk at the time . why was i drunk if i was such a nice guy one might ask . after the dear john letter i was crushed emotionaly and i started just not caring any more and decided to lose the nice guy for awhile. did i get layed more
because of it (no not really but did get some ) just lost interest in trying anymore.
by the time i got back to the states made an amazing discovery phillippino girls reactions to me were extremely different than american girls were and again i was relegated to the freind zone or
being like a brother. fortunatly i had reverted back to my nice guy format. ran around with a freind i had met at work and he and i got along well he had a girlfreind and she had a girlfreind that moved in with my freind. i lived just across the Street from them so occassionaly they came over. we all worked for the same company and during the same shift. still somewhat lonely but not quite as shy
i decided that on friday nights i would have a creature feature beer and wine fest as we watched videos we all got off work at about 11:30 at night and creature feature came on at midnite hour…..
i didn’t know how many of my freinds i worked with would show up but hope a few . that nite i had almost to many people in my apt.
being that at the time i had no girlfreind i was able to save money and basically do what ever i wanted so i decorated my apt. to suite my taste. i lived on the coast and had visited this one restraunt and they had decor which i thought would be interesting to put in my apt.
i had fish netting strung from various places in my living room
with sea shells ,black light and very colorful pictures of seacreatures
all over the place. had a huge tv set which had a great picture tube and the color of the videos was great. between the wine ,beer ,and some dumb ass brought weed (oh,yeh that was my buddy ) i got pretty messed up that first friday. not quite sure how all this came about but some how my freinds girlfreind her girlfreind wanted or needed a ride home . i was just learning about girls body language and was aware that girls that constantly swirled theIR hair around their finger while talking to or looking at you were flirting with you subconsciencely. wasNT sure about how to approach her so i just told her what i had heard about the hair thing and ask if it was true.(ya i was hoping it was true because she was a knock out in the looks department) her response was she was just nervous. didn’t dawn on me that she was still interested in me . (thick headed i quess) anyways this went on for quite awhile and it seeemed i was giving her rides more often for some unknown reason(like how was i to know it was planned by my freind and his girlfreind.(ya gals thats what real freinds do for freinds) well i had another freind that worked at the same company and he and i got along fairly well . he was no doudt the biggest jerk i’ve ever met but for some reason a likeable jerk.(don’t ask me to explain i don’t see how someone that was a nice guy could like a jerk but i did) anyway one weekend he envited me over to fix his tv set which i knew how to and was surprised that it was a set up to introduce me to one of his ex girlfreinds down from another state (yep again gals thats what freinds do for freinds) this however was my future wife and now 40 years latter.
believe it or not she chased me i was the one unsure of if i wanted to get involved with her.
so in answer to your question do nice guys finish last , it depends on how you define last gals and guys. because what is defined as last by some might be first for some one else. the fact i didn’t get married until i was 26 to a 24 yr.old and not straight out of high school as some of my classmates. yes i’m on classmates and many of them that
were the type of guys and gals then have been married 2 or more time and some in the dating process after another divorce. so answer is you get what you want by your life style people. you treat people badly you wind up being treated badly. thats why so many of you wind up getting involved with the wrong type of person and in so many divorces or break ups.
so take it from someone maybe alittle older than some of you that being a freind to some is a two way street if not your not much of a freind.
i’m also going to post how nice guys can get girls by reading body language and also know what body language of girls means that says don’t bother me. and those that says come get me if you dare.
you know i hate it when someone says their trying to help a guy thats asking for help and they try to sell you their book while insulting you the whole time their doing it. their is free sites that has all this info . if i had known this info when in school i may have been abit more confident upon talking and relating to girls with out fear of rejection.
but see i had no freinds that made an effort to tell me these things.
now that i know them i realized one thing i thought i was a loser with the girls because i was nieve about what girls broadcasted in signals that i was unaware of. after finding out about it i thought i was dumb. no someone told me ,dumb means not having the capacity to learn different nieve however means has the capacity to learn and change upon knowing the info.
BELOW YOU’LL SEE ANOTHER OF MY POST ABOUT GIRLS BODY LANGUAGE
this page is misleading it’s not actually saying about helping the poor guy out to over come his (shyness,nervousness,or anyother such things that might affect how he responds to the girl) its about bashing him because he doesn’t come up to your standards.
sometimes even the the nicest guys ones who seem to get rejected over and over again develope complexes. which intentional or unintential created by the responses of you gals(note here this is not to all girls/women because there are alot of you out there that actually do give some of US a break) my expiernce is that i had been like many nice guys ,taught from a small boy that you always treated girls with respect ,never hit ,talk badly about and above all be nice. because girls want a nice guy. hmmmm… yet we see all over the place this isn’t the case at all. we heAe that they are doormats because they were taught to be nice. by and in most cases by their mothers (yeh gals thats some of you)
if you ever have boys as children don’t ever tell them top be nice to girls tell them girls want bad boy types , the type that will hit them , the type that will cheat on them ,the type that will ignore them.
but don’t ever tell them to be nice to girls and respect them. because you just lied to your sons if you told them to be nice to girls. many women give this bs to their sons and then we find out it is bs perpetrated by those that say they love us. so maybe now you might see were some of the nice guy syndrome comes from.
you either don’t like guys that are taught to be nice and like the shit that bad boys do. which many of you come crawling back to the nice guy if shit head mistreats you to badly and you actually wise up. but sometimes that may be to late because one of those girls that actually likes nice guys will have probably snatched them up.
the nice guys that are truly nice and not just to get sex and you’ve relegated to the freind zone or that as like an older brother who you so depend upon in those crisis with shit head bad boy , question to you have you ever tried to set him up knowing he’s (shy,nervous,
or what ever other reasons you girls reject nice guys for for) or do you just string him along so that just in case shit head jerk or jerks don’t work out you might dEcide to give mr. nice guy your bussom buddy a shot. is it he’s such a nice sweet guy that all he could be is a freind if so i’ve always been told that freindship is a two way street. he’s offered you advice probably on many occassions consold you probably as many times. but what have you actually contributed to him(and i’m not talking about sex her gals) have you ever considered this ok , maybe its not me he may get but i know this girl thats a freind that might go out with you. hey girls note of importance here guys do it for their male freinds all the time . don’t believe me as them. ok, guys this question for you has any of your bussom buddy gal freinds thats had you relegated to the freind zone ever tried setting you up? if not why continue the freindship because its evident they are not your freind if they have no sense of empathy for you. freinds help each other in time of need how much have you helped her in comparision to how much she’s helped you . in many cases its probably pretty much one sided you helping her with little if any coming your way(and again not about sex girls)
am i bashing girls here only those that act in the fashion i described. it doesn’t feel good to be bashed does it gals. so why do it to the guys. if these guys are truly your freinds as some of you aledge to then start showing it and stop the one sided thing .
because many of your bussom buddies may be consoling you and telling you everything is going to work out and be ok , but underneith it all their crying out why the hell are you putting yourself through all this torment.
because many of us has learned it wouldn’t do us any good to do so so we don’t. and probably what few have voiced their opinions probably lost your freindship because your love for shit head jerk was undying and how dare he make such comments on that shit head of a jerk that you found so exciting .
why am i on here because as said i was one of those nice guys and i was one of those that got snatched up by a very ,very good gal that liked me for whom i was before some gals like you wised up to the jerk syndrome you found yourself in.
thats my rant for now. going to the feminist blogs now to destroy the alpha male lie thats been perpetrated on us since women sufferage and the womens liberation
stay tuned to this guy because ge’s about to piss alot of people off for the lies that been told to them all their lives.
NOW THIS IS SOMETHING YOU WON’T FIND OTHERS POSTING
YOU KNOW I’VE SEEN ALOT OF SOMEWHAT GOOD ADVICE AND SOME THATS JUST DOWN RIGHT CRAPPY . HOW DOES ONE BUILD OR GET CONFIDENCE IN A FIRST TIME APPROACH ESPECIALLY IF HE BELIEVES HE DOESN’T KNOW IF HE’S GOING TO GET SHOT DOWN IN FLAMES BY THE GIRL.
OK TROOPS YOUR GENERAL PHIL HAS CALLED FOR SOME RECON
LOOK FOR THE FOLLOWING AT SOME PLACES WHERE YOUR ENEMY HANGS OUT . PREFERABLY SOMEPLACE WHERE THE ENEMY MIGHT SEE YOU.
BUT GENERAL WE DIDN’T KNOW GETTING A GIRL WAS LIKE BEING AT WAR AND HER BEING AN ENEMEY.
SON IT MIGHT AS WELL BE .
YOU WANT TO GET THE GIRL OLD MILITARY SAYING KNOW YOUR ENEMEY ACTIONS . I’M PASSING OUT LEAFLETTS WITH VALUABLE INTEL THAT YOU MAY BE ABLE TO SEE IN ACTION MEN. READ THEM AND MAKE THEM YOUR T.O. BIBLE ON YOUR ENEMEY.
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If you want to know how a woman thinks and feels at any situation, then reading female body language signals is crucial. Whether you’re inviting a woman to a date, or you’re already in a relationship, you can find out what she’s thinking or feeling at any moment if you’re adept in reading female body language signs.
Here are 5 hot and reliable signs to know if a woman is attracted to you.
# 1 - The Eyes
If her eyes are dilated or widely opened, that means she’s interested or may even be sexually attracted to you.
Here’s another way to find out if she likes you. Notice if she looks at you longer-than-usual, glances her eyes away for a while (she may look down or on her sides), and then looks at you again. If she does this repeatedly (especially with a smile on her face), then she’s very attracted to you.
When a woman is excited to see you, you might also notice her eyebrows rise unconsciously.
# 2 - The Lips
You’ll know if a woman fancies you by reading her lips. Some female body language signals that indicate attraction include wetting or massaging her lips with her tongue, softly biting them, and putting on lipstick.
# 3 - The Legs
If she consistently crosses and uncrosses her legs, then this is a clue that she likes you. If she’s massaging and/or exposing her thighs while crossing and uncrossing, then this is a very clear sign of attraction.
However, if she crosses her legs tightly and for a long time, she might be indicating defensiveness. She may be signaling that she’s “closed” from any potential sexual encounters.
# 4 - The Knees
You can tell if a girl’s interested in you by looking at her knees. If they’re facing you, then that’s a good sign of attraction. If she turns her other body parts towards you as if she wants to focus her attention solely on you, then you just hit the jackpot.
If her knees are pointing towards directions other than yours, then this indicates her disinterest; hence, she wants to get out of the current situation. Reading this female body language signal is vital so you won’t keep on pursuing her if she’s not interested anymore.
# 5 - The Hands
If a woman touches you, then this is a very reliable sign of attraction. Notice that she may not touch you in an obvious manner. She may touch your arm to prove a point or come up with reasons to dust your shirt. But you know better!
Isn’t it fascinating how you can decode what a woman is feeling or thinking by simply reading female body language signals? Now you can do away with the guessing game and start focusing on your romantic adventures
HERE ARE SOME OTHER FACTS YOU MAY BE INTERESTED IN SOME ARE SIMILIAR TO THE ABOVE BUT HAVE ADDITIONAL INTEL .
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READING FEMALE BODY LANGUAGE
The Single Signals - Female Body Language
There are literally dozens of ways that a woman uses her body language to communicate her interest and attraction to a man. Reading female body language can be simple or complex but the real trick is recognising clusters and progressions.
The images shown on this page are some of the most reliable individual signals. However, the use of a single signal by a woman does not indicate total attraction but is rather an indicator of interest. As the individual signals become more frequent, clustered and obvious, the more interested (or desperate) is the woman. For example it’s quite common for woman in a nightclub to be subtle in her signalling early in the evening but as the night progresses and she still hasn’t attracted a man these signals can become increasingly obvious.
Contrary to what you may have read elsewhere about reading female body language, there is no sure-fire way of perfectly understanding these courtship gestures every time. Women may project them consciously (and sometimes just for sport), or they may be totally unaware of what their bodies are saying. A woman may even show physical interest through her body language because she subconsciously wants to be desired while actually rejecting a suitor because she is consciously aware that she is married. This is self reassurance behaviour.
Reading female body language also requires a high degree of honesty on the part of the man. Many men overreact to simple signals or, because of their desire to be successful, actually see signals that are not really there. One simple and fantastic piece of advice when reading female body language is to take it nice and easy. If her signals are subtle and understated then a man’s responses should be just as balanced. If hers fade away then her interest has been lost - if they increase then it’s safe for a man to respond in equal measure.
However, before exploring the progression of signals it is vital to be able to recognise some of the basics. For most men “seeing” even the most simple of signals can be challenge. Fear of rejection is the reason. This page should help with reading female body language.
The Head / Hair Toss: The human body is pretty hairless. Other than a gene manipulated cat and near extinct shrew; there are no other mamals that are as hairless as humans. (We don’t include fish, reptiles or birds in this analogy.) Long, flowing hair has always been a sign of feminine health and thus sexuality and child bearing ability. By tossing her hair a woman is essentially saying: “look at me and my suitability. I am happy, confident and very healthy!” Long hair is feminine while short hair is masculine. If this wasn’t the case why do so many (male) lesbians shave their hair as a statement?
The Lip Nibble: (left) Oh my God! Men love this body language signal. It’s origins and the reasons why it works are still a mystery. There is nothing like the Lower Lip Nibble to subconsciously give a man an injection of pure of testosterone. The lower lip is gently gripped by the teeth and with sensual slowness allowed to slip away. Done well and without awareness this can drive a man to his knees - done badly it becomes a parody. Strangely, this is a powerful sex signal between women (lesbians) and is used by the submissive female to indicate interest in the dominant potential partner.
The Hair Flick: (right) Reading female body language has never been easier. For women, twirling or flicking their hair is a favourite flirting gesture. Why this has such an effect on men is a hotly debated subject. The ‘Definitive Book of Body Language’ (Allan and Barbara) allegedly claims that it allows a woman to expose her armpit and thus “waft” pheromones to the man. (Huh?) Another explanation is that it is a casual way of exposing her neck - a well known erogenous zone. Some researchers even claim it attracts attention to her “healthy” hair. We admit it - we just don’t know. Still, it’s a great signal to watch out for.
Tilt and Smile: (left) This is a classic and is perhaps the most common of flirting and attraction signals. It indicates a submissive, interested and alluring mood on the part of the woman doing it. Most importantly it is “shorthand” for: “I’ve noticed you and I like what I see. I can’t look away so I’m sneaking another look. My Smile is to let you know I’m feeling good and want you to know it.” Generally the gesture is quite quick and meant to attract attention. If the man doesn’t get it after several attempts then the woman usually gives up on him as “just too stupid to mate with”.
Neck stroking: (right) The neck is one of a woman’s most sensitive and erogenous zones and touching it will attract a man’s attention. Why does this work? Well, apparently, men are attracted to soft smooth female skin and the neck is the most socially acceptable to display. Smooth skin is a reliable indicator of both youth and health - critical factors when a male is “hunting” a mate. The neck is also a very sensitive part of the female body and touching it stimulates a gentle, soothing and loving sensation. Try it for yourself by tilting your head to one side and gently stoking the exposed neck. Feels good doesn’t it?
Toying or Object Stroking: (above) Psychologists believe that people often transfer inner feelings to external objects. So by stroking the stem of a wine glass (for example) a woman is using female body language to say “stroke me”. By running her a pen across her lips she is saying “kiss me”. These female body language signals should not be confused with “agitation” gestures that indicate that the woman would rather be somewhere else. The difference is in the speed with which they are performed. Slow and sensual is good - fast and “jerky” is bad. Wine glasses, table ornaments, sun glasses and pens are common objects used for “toying”.
Knee Pointing: This signal is about interest and focus. By turning the knees and legs towards a man, a woman is using female body language to indicate the person in which she is currently interested - thus creating a personal space triangle. The outer legs also present a barrier to others who may intrude. Translated, this signal means: “You are the person I am focusing on.” Legs and knees that point away are a bad sign - particularly if the knees are aiming at a door. In a sense they become a barrier to the nearby person and an invitation to others. The more leg exposed the more sexual the signal.
The Vagina / Womb Gesture: To the right is a picture of a woman wearing an average pair of jeans and yet the way she has placed her hands is a powerful “turn-on” for some men. The reason is that her hands are creating a frame for her Vagina. Although sometimes mistaken for “male” gesture, her hands are actually “spelling-out” what’s on her mind. Her female body language is actually saying: “This is the part of me that I want you to notice. I’m telling you that this area of my body is available for the right man!” It is a confident signal indicating aggressive sexual availability.
Self Stroking / Touching! (above) This is both subtle and obvious at the same time. Essentially it means: “I’m stroking and touching myself because I’d really like to be stroked and touched by you”. Also, by touching herself in this way a woman draws a man’s attention to those erogenous zones that she thinks are her best assets and will appeal to him. Thighs, neck and ankles are all favourites. It is fair to say that women are very aware of the way that this subconsciously affects men and will do it deliberately. Where it is subconscious it is a truly reliable indicator of a woman’s feelings.
The Shoe Dangle: (left) Reading a female use of shoes and her feet as part of her body language could fill a book on its own. We may later dedicate an entire page to this form of subtle communication. The Shoe Dangle is a strong but subtle message to a man. Translated it says: “By half slipping off my shoe I’m indicating that I am relaxed, comfortable and may be willing to undress further.” Also, for many men (even those that won’t admit it), the female foot is (strangely) attractive. Women worldwide spend Billions of Dollars on footwear and pedicures and they do it for a reason!
All images used are of models that have assumed poses for photographic purposes. Thesee images in no way imply any negative characteristic about these individuals.
“ Being a woman is a very difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men.”
Joseph Conrad
OK GENTLEMEN YOU HAVE YOUR ORDERS NOW GO OUT AND HAVE SOME FUN WITH THE RECON MISSION.
OK, I KNOW THIS WAS HOCKY BUT SOME PEOPLE ON OTHER SITES SAYING THEIR TRYING TO HELP . TELL YOU THEIR GOING TO INTENTIONAL PISS YOU OFF AND CALLL YOU EVERY NAME IN THE BOOK BY INSULTING YOU TO WHAT ENDS TO BUY THEIR BOOK. GENTS THATS A REAL SWIFT SALES GIMMICK IF IT WORKED .
HOPEFULLY NONE OF YOU WERE INSULTED BUT MAYBE GOT A CHUCKLE OR TWO . MAYBE LAUGHED AT YOURSELF SAYING .
HEY THAT GIRL DID THAT AND I THOUGHT SHE WAS JUST (WHATEVER SHE MAY HAVE DONE) . IF BY READING HERE IT BOLSTERED YOUR CONFIDENCE TO APPROACH THE GIRL AND HAVE A KNOWLEDGE THAT SHE IN MOST CASES WOULDN’T TURMN YOU DOWN FOR THAT DATE YOU WANT . WOULD YOU GO FOR IT.
THE RECON REQUEST WAS REAL THOUGH WANT TO SEE IF ANY OF THIS WORKS THAT GIRLS DO. GO SOMEPLACE WHERE GUYS AND GIRLS GENERALLY GO TO GET PICKED UP. (THAT PROVIDING YOUR OLD ENOUGH TO GET IN FELLOWS) LIKE BARS ,NITECLUBS,AND THE LIKE. SIT BACK WATCH GUYS HIT ON GIRLS SEE IF YOU SEE ANY OF THESE SIGNALS GIRLS BROADCAST. WATCH TO SEE IF THEY BROADCAST YA,I’M INTO YOU OR GO AWAY NOT INTERESTED.
SEE WHICH GUY GETS THE GIRL BY HOW SHE SENDS THE SIGNALS .
IF IT WORKS FOR THESE GUYS IT WILL WORK FOR YOU.
I BELEIVE ITS A SHAME THAT GUYS THAT KNOW THIS WON’T SHARE WITH GUYS THAT REALLY NEED TO KNOW THIS INFO.
SORRY GUYS THE WEB PAGE I GOT SOME OF THE INFO FROM THIS SITE WOULDN’T ALLOW THE PICS WITH INFO . JUST DO THE WEB SEARCH FOR GIRLS BODY LANGUAGE AND CHECK OUT THE VARIOUS SITES .
ALSO GUYS WE TOO SEND OUT BODY SIGNALS TO THE GIRLS PROBLEM IS THEIR BETTER AT IT THAN WE ARE
From my experience being overly nice rises suspessions. I had many bad experiences just by being nice.
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I agree with Clive. I also had some bad experiences being overly nice. I also read somewhere that women prefer mean men over nice ones.
Sometimes, when it comes to love, nice guys may never finsih at all…
Thanks, this is a quite good post actually. Most of the time I come across useless stuff, but this one is really good. Thumbs up.
Well I am a nice guy and I have not finished ever regarding females. With Life
I am doing okay. I finish in the middle of the pack. You win some you lose some.
Law of averages I guess. But when it comes to females… Flat Line… 0,0,0 on the
All 3 axis graph! LOL!
My personal story is very simple… 15 years I have had only 3 females that I thought I was interested in. Each of them I met about 5 years apart. During these times either the girl was in a relationship already or had something going on. So I came in as the nice guy. Not the want to be boyfriend.
With each girl, we became awesome friends. From the age of 15 to Now, 15 years later; 2 of the 3 are now married and the third one, right up until last month I thought I had a chance of finally getting a girlfriend is now kicking it with some other guy who is not as nice as me.
When I asked these girls what it was that made me a potential boy friends they all said because you are so nice and sweet and giving.
When I asked them after they have kicked me to the curb what happen or what changed… (I mean we are still friends so I can ask them for their honesty)
In their big sister way they say that “You are a Nice guy. Women don’t want Nice. They want challenge and you are not challenging”, “I can and get anything I want from you. All I have to do is ask. If I am feeling lonely you will spend time on the phone
or in my presence and I don’t have to pay you back with any kind of reward so I don’t and you don’t even act if you care that you are not getting anything. You are
too nice to a fault. And I could walk all over you if I wanted to.” “You don’t even try to
come on to me or anything, You don’t say no, You don’t respond to flirtation”, “I know you like me and want to be with me in a physical way yet you don’t even try or tell me.”
“Yes I said that you are not my type but you don’t even challenge me on that. We spent all these years together as friends and when I did not have anyone you did not even try to step up and fill the void, You just kept being nice and helping through it like a good Friend so now that why you are just that”, “Being able to walk all over you does not excite me. I don’t want nice.. . I want a challenge. You are not a challenge.” This are the
Things I have heard in my life time from 3 very close female friends who all said if you were not so nice We more then likely would have been together…
Most of this stuff I heard couple of days ago… from the latest female friend. (That’s who
I found this site.. I was looking to see WTF am I the only one) I was so sad. Being nice is not what this girl wanted for sure.
So much time wasted. But there are other fish in the sea I guess. What sucks is that you spend so much time and effort and you still lose out.
Oh well. Keep looking and I will keep being who I am.. The Nice Guy!
Sorry for any typos!
Was looking for something else but found this page by accident. I does have some nice info and I put in in my favorites so I will check back soon.
I have found out the hard way with my experience of being a nice guy, yes you will finish last. It is a tough thing to realize but if you aren’t atleast a half jerk you will be run over all the time.
Flirting is a natural thing. Nice guys should learn how to playfully compliment someone or just make them know they’re interested and not do anything extreme.
I am a nice guy, but can play the jerk when needed. I just hate doing it.
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Ahhh, sadly I’m scarred for life. I tried the nice guy thing for awhile in Chicago, but got steamrolled! Now it’s on to a modified version of a nice guy, who isn’t afraid to break out the brass knuckles (figuratively!) when necessary.
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This is a great site, and like you said as far as employment: nope… I found that out
Las Vegas Nightlife said:
Sometimes, when it comes to love, nice guys may never finsih at all…
Posted on June 8th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
HAHAHAHAHA!! But at least nice guys can spell!!! Unlike you!!
Yes they do end up last but thatis because their kindness is looked at as a weakness
I think the main question is not where nice guys finish, but whether a nice guy can live with himself if he puts up a “bad boy” facade.
This is very true lol
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i think that there is a thin line between being a nice guy and being too nice(submissive)
Great article. Everything is right up my alley. I’m amazed you were able to put such context to your story.
Thanks for the great words!
i think that there is a thin line between being a nice guy and being too nice(submissive)
Well after reading your article it’s basically only one conclusion - there is no point being nice.
I must admit you’re right. Being nice sucks often, more likely you won’t get anything in return. Not even thank you.
For boys, love is a very broad topic to discuss on. When it comes true love, guys can be really romantic.
I hate being described as ‘nice’. I’d rather someone be totally honest and tell me exactly what they think. Being ‘nice’ is just…….boring!!
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Nice guys don’t have to be submissive.. sure be nice when you want to be - but learn to protect yourself. Log off facebook hit the gym - and get pumped.
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Women need stress in their lives by nature. think about thier menstrual cycles. Women are created to follow a mans lead. Women crave the masculinity in a mans personality. They do not crave wussy. They dream of Tarzan coming a saving the day by KILLING the vilan, just like the romance novel stuff they read for a few weeks. Men treat women like cute puppy dogs instead of the sexual creatures that they are. Shes looking for your protection, for your approval, for your lead in into the bedroom. The truth is men have all the power because they have to initiate the woman to follow a mans lead. As men, we crave their feminine features and behaviors, but should not wear a mask of femininity in order to pursue them.
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Ahhh, sadly I’m scarred for life. I tried the nice guy thing for awhile in Chicago, but got steamrolled! Now it’s on to a modified version of a nice guy, who isn’t afraid to break out the brass knuckles (figuratively!) when necessary.
Really interesting read. Agreed with most of it. Especially when first meeting a woman, if you’re nice, you will lose. For maintaining that relationship - you have to be seen at least to be caring. Thanks.
Yes they will always end last because they do not make the woman feel like she is a sexual creature. They do noting to stimulate their sex drive except be nice.
There is no point only being nice. Being nice and romantic is two different things. really nice article.
It hurts. No matter how hard we try to forget it, it just couldn’t move away. It’s really important stay strong. It will go somehow. Let time do its job.
Well after reading your article it’s basically only one conclusion - there is no point being nice.
I must admit you’re right. Being nice sucks often, more likely you won’t get anything in return. Not even thank you.
It is such an honor to have the chance to join the discussion of this great blog site! I want to extend my thanks for this.
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The problem is, that, America has quickly turned into an aberrated society. Whatever was once considered “good”, is now viewed as “bad”, and vice versa. Plus, the main culprit is the fact that, ever since the late 1960’s, there has been a total breakdown in the nuclear family structure in America, with a total lack of decent, upstanding fathers, giving integral advice to young children. Instead, you have single-parent homes, usually headed by a mother, who has very low
self-esteem, who doesn’t know how to act like a “lady”, who is filled with anger, and tells her children to behave badly.
nice info Your post reminded me of a time when my son Sebastian (a lovely person) was 5 years old. He was being bullied at school. He had started karate classes and had been told NEVER to use it. So he asked me:
“Mum, do I then just let them hit me?”
Was looking for something else but found this page by accident. I does have some nice info and I put in in my favorites so I will check back soon.
Nice guys will get trampled over in the modern world. Here in the UK maners and being polite used to be valued, now you will definately finish last if thats how you conduct yourself in your normal day to day life
Hi, Nice guys might finish last in the short run but never in the long run!
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Hi, why didn’t you stop those stupid guys? Or you said ” Behave”!
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Maybe they do because as what I have observed, nice guys are shy and humble. Sometimes they are too choosy for the girl they want.
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